Relationship Report: When Does Flirting Become Cheating? – As Heard on Mike and Tricia
WHEN DOES FLIRTING BECOME CHEATING?: Flirting with someone other than your partner is usually pretty harmless — most of the time. It’s when certain boundaries are crossed that you begin swimming in dangerous waters. Here, according to a group of family therapists consulted by Live Science, are some red flags you should look out for:
• It’s secretive. If you’re deleting emails or texts — that’s a red flag. Deleting means you’re hiding something and that you know your partner would be upset to read them.
• It’s sexual. As soon as your flirtation shifts to a more sexual tone, you’re in trouble.
• Time. If you’re spending a big chunk of time e-mailing or chatting with this “friend,” this is a big red flag.
• You’re rationalizing. If your friendship is completely appropriate, you shouldn’t feel the need to justify it by telling your partner “We’re just friends!”
• Your partner doesn’t like it. You get a red flag if your partner isn’t happy about your communications with this person.
• A friend voices concern. Pay attention if a good friend asks why you’re talking to this person so much or tells you to stop obsessing about them.