Relationship Report – Handling the Holidays When You’re in a New Relationship
Dating in December can be tricky, especially if you're in a new relationship. Here's some advice courtesy of the ladies at Marie Claire on how to make the holidays less romantically stressful for both of you:
--Don't bring your new guy to your office party. Work parties can be stressful and awkward and bringing your new guy will just put undue pressure on you. Plus, a bunch of people talking about work can bore an outsider to tears.
--Don't be offended if he doesn't bring you to his. He's not asking you for the same reasons you shouldn't ask him.
--Think twice about inviting him to family gatherings. Introducing a new guy to your family is nerve-racking, especially during the holidays. Your relatives might be annoying or rude or weird, but even if they're perfect, it's probably too soon for a meet and greet.
If Your Relationship is more serious ...
--Discuss the gift situation. Not sure if you're serious enough to buy each other gifts or how much to spend? Talk about it with your guy rather than guessing -- you don't want to show up with a pricy gift for him when he has none for you (or vice versa)
--Make your gift a date. If neither of you is ready for a big gift exchange, agree to have a special date together or make gifts for each other.
--Compromise. Arguing over whose family to spend the holidays with? If possible, split the holidays. For example do Christmas Eve with your family, Christmas Day with his. If you must go your separate ways for Christmas, then agree to spend a romantic New Year's Eve together.
--Warn him. If he's coming to your family gathering for the first time, let him know what he's in for so he can prepare himself. If you'll be with his family, ask him if he has any tips for you to make a good impression.