Memo to the fellas! Valentine’s Day -- the one day a year your affection and commitment are put to the test -- is this coming Tuesday! Forgetting the Holy Day of Obligation is the first mistake to avoid. Here are a few others courtesy of love gurus on Shine.com:

Getting your words of affection from Walgreens or Albertsons - Why it’s bad: Ladies want to hear what YOU think about them, not what some greeting card writer thinks.

The fix: Get some pretty paper, write something that conveys how special she is to you and she'll cherish it forever.

Calling V-Day a Scam - Why it’s bad: Despite all the arguments you may have against the day, it comes down to celebrating your relationship

The fix: If it really pains you to observe the day, celebrate the day before. The most important thing is to set aside some together-time

Texting on Valentine's Day - Why it’s bad: Texting, emailing, or instant messaging are for reminding her to pick up milk on the way home. In terms of effort, it’s minimal.

The fix: The only suitable electronic items are a mix CD, an I-Pod downloaded with all the songs that remind you of her, or getting her favorite deejay on her favorite radio station to dedicate a song to her.

Expecting her to make the plans - Why it’s bad: Making plans is a sign of commitment. The fact that you didn’t put any fore-thought into your time with her is not lost on her.

The fix: Even if you’re strapped for cash or want to avoid overbooked restaurants, picking something up you know she loves and presenting it in a romantic setting suggests you’ve put some thought into your night together, even if you just stopped by the supermarket on the way home.